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Wednesday, December 27, 2017

Home-improvement dilemmas answered

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Kamla and Alex Millson took inspiration from a distinctive hotel suite to transform their space.

Kamla Millson, owner

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The owners: Kamla Millson (right), a contract officer for adult social care, lives here with her husband Alex, who runs his own joinery business
The property: A four-bedroom converted bungalow, built in 1928
The location: Leeds, West Yorkshire
What they spent: The couple’s bathroom project cost around £11,500 as part of their loft conversion

A renovation project

After five years of making do with an original 90-year-old bathroom, we were ready for a bit of luxury,’ explains Kamla. ‘But it wasn’t until we stayed in a hotel with a fabulous open-plan bedroom and bathroom suite that we knew how we wanted our bathroom to look.’

Having put their modern townhouse on the market, Kamla and husband Alex looked for a project that would give them more space, and creating an opulent bathroom was at the top of their wishlist. A detached bungalow they found on the outskirts of Leeds, dating back to 1928, fitted the bill perfectly. ‘The house was like a time capsule, and hadn’t been touched for years,’ recalls Kamla. ‘The old lady who sold it to us had been living there since it was built – in fact, her father had built it. The property had lots of potential and, as Alex is a joiner, we were keen to take on a big renovation.’

It was five years, however, before the couple were ready to start work on creating a new master bedroom and en suite, plus a small home office next to the triangular window in the gable.

Hotel inspiration

‘We’d been to our friends’ wedding in nearby Harrogate, and the fabulous loft bedroom and en suite in the hotel gave us the inspiration to start work on ours,’ says Kamla. ‘Originally, we had planned to open up the loft to create two bedrooms, each with its own en suite, but the hotel suite we had stayed in made us rethink this. We thought it would be better to have one luxurious bedroom and bathroom space, with no door between the two areas.

‘We already knew that we wanted a dark bathroom, as we liked the idea of contrasting white sanitaryware with dark tiles,’ she continues, ‘but we decided that if we were going to use dark tiles, we wouldn’t want the space to feel confined.’

Before they could start thinking about the décor and fittings, there was some major work to be done in the roof space. With a background in design and boat building, self-confessed perfectionist Alex was confident about tackling the loft conversion himself. ‘By doing all the work, I could be sure that we got exactly what we wanted,’ he says. ‘Kamla and I had a shared vision and we didn’t mind putting in the effort because we knew we would get something great at the end of it.’

Planning the design

Before starting the project or ordering fixtures and fittings for the new bathroom, Alex used the online planning tool SketchUp to make sure he knew exactly how the space would look when it was finished, and to ensure that key components were in the correct position. Although not one to settle for an easy option, he explains that the high-gabled roofline made planning the loft conversion much simpler. ‘Most of the purlins were high enough to walk under, and we designed the space so that the bath was under the lowest beam,’ he says.

Alex did all the building work for the loft conversion and most of the plumbing himself, but enlisted the help of friends and other tradespeople when needed. ‘Putting up plasterboard is definitely not a one-man job,’ says Kamla, ‘so Alex got a friend to help him. In fact, I also helped before going off to work in the morning. There was no staircase, so it was just a question of me putting on my grippy gloves and passing up the huge boards into the void!’

Alex marked out the positions of pipes and electrics on the plasterboard, before laying tiles straight on to it. ‘You achieve a better fix that way,’ he says. A friend then plastered the ceiling and the couple employed an electrician. Kamla and Alex decided to position the rooflights directly above the bath – perfect for combining bathing with stargazing. All the work in the loft had to be completed before a spiral staircase went in, so Alex found himself running up and down a ladder with all the materials he needed, including the couple’s choice of dark brown wall and floor tiles. It took one month of working late into the evenings to finish the tiling alone. Besides looking stylish, the large-format tiles and tile spacers also had the advantage of limiting the amount of grouting that was required.

Decorating the space

With the dark tiles covering the walls and floors, Kamla and Alex wanted to make a contrast of colour and materials, and commissioned bespoke bookmatched walnut cabinets with three drawers to house twin basins. Finished with a red Silestone countertop, it makes a stunning feature and adds further interest to the space. Two angular basins are set into the countertop and a third basin is fitted in the separate WC area.

Coming in at around £1,500, the whirlpool bath, complete with massage jets and radio, nearly pushed the couple over their budget; they avoided any cash flow problems by completing one area at a time. Kamla also reasoned that they had managed for so long with the old bathroom downstairs that a touch of extra luxury was long overdue. Getting the new bath up to the loft, however, proved to be quite a challenge. ‘We wrapped up the bath in bubble wrap so it didn’t get damaged, and Alex and two friends had to carefully lift it through the void where the staircase was going to go. It was really heavy with the motor for all the jets and electrics,’ she explains.

The finished room

More delicate manoeuvring was required to get the shower screen in place. ‘We wanted just one solid piece of glass with no joins, so we ended up having to use the scaffolding to put it through the triangular window at the front of the house,’ explains Kamla. Happily, the glass stayed in one piece, ready for Alex to install the rainwater showerhead and hand shower. Last to go into the new space above the vanity unit were two mirrored bathroom cabinets, which have integrated LED lighting, creating a soft glow in the bathroom. This has proved essential for minimising disturbance at night, as there is no door between the bathroom and bedroom areas, although there is one separating the WC.

Now that their loft project is finished, Kamla and Alex are proud of what they have achieved. It has amounted to hundreds of hours of labour for Alex, but the couple have saved tens of thousands of pounds by doing the build themselves. Ever the perfectionist, Alex concludes: ‘You get the best results and the best finish by doing things yourself.’

The costs

Bathroom fittings and fixtures£8,843
 Tiles£2,000
 Labour costs (electrics, plumbing and plastering)£600
 Underfloor heating£200
TOTAL£11,643

Featured image: Rooflights by Okpol have been positioned directly above a freestanding back-to-wall Hydra Pro bath from Taps4less. A white tripod chair from Christopher Pratts sits perfectly against the dark interior

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Stop the Stress: 15 Real People Share Their Go-To Relaxation Methods

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At the end of a long, stressful day, what do you most look forward to? Everyone has a different way of unwinding—for some people it's plopping down on the couch to watch their favorite show on Netflix, for others, it's going to the gym or taking a long hot shower. There's pretty much no limit to how you can relax and de-stress.

We asked people to tell us their favorite ways to relax, so if you don't have a go-to self-care method, one of these ideas is sure to inspire you.


App-Guided Meditation:

"There are so many options on relaxing that I go to—yoga with my favorite instructors at Equinox (followed by a sauna session), booking an appointment at Drybar, sipping coffee at Kahve in Hell's Kitchen...but my absolutely favorite is meditation! My coworker turned me on to it with the app Insight Timer, and it is absolutely the best thing. After only a few weeks, I feel lighter, more productive, and dare I say happier! It REALLY works—I recommend guided mediation if you're a newbie, but any kind of meditation is good I think."

— Antonia in Manhattan, NY


Crocheting and Knitting:

"I've always crocheted, and learned to knit several years ago. It's how I unwind and release stress and tension built up during the day. It's a sort of meditation for me....I block out the world and concentrate on counting stitches and the movement of my hands. A lot of people are still alive because I crochet and knit."

— Christine in Orange, CA


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Watching Weird YouTube Videos:

"Lately I've been totally obsessed with watching people cut open squishy toys on Youtube—that and the people who make slime. It's so relaxing! Or people who make miniature sized foods."

Abby in Camden, ME


Cooking a Grandparent-Approved Dinner:

"A few years ago I found myself in a food dessert in Omaha—there were no real grocery stores anywhere near, so putting together dinner became incredibly stressful. I have since moved back to my home city of Minneapolis, where there are many great grocery stores very close, and as a result the act of making dinner has become weirdly soothing to me after work. I've especially been exploring recipes from Eastern Europe—where my grandparents came from—so making dinner has become a little adventure, in that I am sort of traveling through time, to my grandparents dinner tables, and space, to Russia or Belarus or Ukraine. It's a great way to take my mind off the day of work and get ready to settle in for the evening."

— Max in Minneapolis, MN


Music, Coloring Books and Phone Calls:

I've had Fibromyalgia since I was 16, so my process of unwinding/relaxing is crucial—but it also varies each day. What I do: Listen to my favorite musicians that either calm me or just make me happy (i.e. The Lumineers, Sam Cooke, Mumford & Sons, Jack Johnson, etc.). Adult coloring books have recently become one of my favorite ways to unwind after a busy day—I just lay on my bed and get to coloring and after an hour or so I actually feel more relaxed and less stressed after a hectic work day.

I'll also go for a walk—after 7 or 8pm, when it gets a bit more quiet and less busy outside my building. I just put my headphones in and take a casual walk around the block—or a few blocks—and sometimes that's all I need to unwind. Or, I'll take a long shower with music playing on my speakers—sometimes the best way to relax is a nice hot shower and (badly) singing along to my favorite songs. On really bad days I like to give my boyfriend and/or my parents a call. Hearing their voices and positive words after an especially trying day works wonders for me and distracts me from whatever was stressing me out earlier in the day."

— Lisa in Manhattan, NY


A Playlist and a Hoverboard:

"After an especially long day I like to grab my hoverboard (which I have actually never taken outside) and roam around my home with a specialized playlist I entitled, 'Entrance Music.' It's a fun way to unwind, and whenever I have company over it turns into something pretty entertaining and fun."

CJin Los Angeles, CA


Walking in the Park:

"Long walks usually work for me, especially near water or in a park. Prospect Park is great for this."

Aura in Brooklyn, NY


Going for a Swim:

"Almost every evening, I head to my health club and unwind by swimming laps and doing aqua-calisthenics in the swimming pool, followed by a relaxing hot soak in the jacuzzi. Swimming is great exercise and also a bit of a social gathering as I tend to see the same 'gym friends' each day, and we catch up on our lives in the hot tub as the jets are massaging our tense muscles. Afterwards, I may go into the steam room or sauna and indulge in a bit of beauty treatments—facials, applying hair conditioner, exfoliation and lots of moisturizer. I leave rejuvenated and glowing!

— Samuella in Manhattan, NY


Taking a Hot Bath:

"Taking a nice long hot bath in a dark room with candles is by far the best way I personal relax. A bath is so important for my mental health that when apartment searching it is pretty much my only requirement. Besides the benefits of muscle relaxation and scented candles, I believe a bath is extra helpful since it requires me to unplug from all electronics and actually take some 'me' time."

— Brittany in Miami, FL


Enjoying the View:

"I actually call it Sonia time. I turn off the tv and look out the window (I have a great view) and take in deep breaths and exhale while sitting there and staring out. Sometimes there maybe wine. Sometimes soft spa music. It makes me feel like I'm away somewhere else. I just sit and look. I'm on the 32nd floor and have a lake view on one side and a city view on the other. If I'm looking out at the city I'm enjoying that I'm not busy compared to those people on their way somewhere—for the water side it's just pure calm."

— Sonia in Toronto, Ontario, Canada


Going Window Shopping:

"I find time to relax by window shopping at local antiques and thrift stores. It is retail therapy without the costs. The shops are a few blocks from my home office so I take about an hour shop and stroll to get away from my computer to recharge. Not mention I get to burn a few calories and catch up with my neighbors."

— Michiel in Walterboro, SC


Going for a Drive:

"Personally, I like to take a long drive, with no objective other than to see new things and listen to music. Otherwise, a glass of wine and my best friend are basically the antidote to any stressful day."

— Brianna in Lancaster, PA


Practicing Tai Chi:

"I am a big fan of Tai Chi, but I also do water aerobics, massage, acupuncture, knitting, reading, hanging out with friends, and watching TV to de-stress. I started learning Tai Chi about 12 years ago and have gotten progressively addicted over the years. I now know the choreography of 2 different forms and I absolutely love it. It is a way to both relax and focus. I even guest teach when the regular backup cannot be there. I have met great people, it has helped my balance, improved my bone density and helped calm my mind. I just love it."

— Paige in Cambridge, MA


Studying Ballet:

"I'm an amateur ballet dancer. I danced in my youth and took it up again despite having limited time due to having a career and family. Every week I have a private dance lesson with a teacher who is devoted to my goal to improve my technique. I get a wonderful workout, I engage in creative expression, and I leave every class feeling physically and mentally recharged."

— Ebonee in Washington, D.C.


Playing Video Games:

"Putting in so many hours as an entrepreneur, you can bet relaxation is hard to come by. However, one of the things I do to try and calm myself is play video games. Whether it's a game on my PS4 or a game on my iPhone, I try to take a couple breaks throughout the day to turn my brain off and play video games. It helps me escape temporarily from the pressures of the day."

Chris in Houston, TX


Now it's your turn: What's your favorite way to unwind?

Sunday, March 4, 2018

With Bathroom Bill Dead, Houston-Founded Pastor Council Looks To Future Fights

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Dave Welch speaks during a press conference in favor of a bathroom bill at the Texas Capitol near the end of the special session on August 14, 2017.

A day before the Texas Legislature ended its special session this week, a session that included a high-profile fight over a “bathroom bill” that appeared almost certainly dead, David Welch had a message for Gov. Greg Abbott: call lawmakers back to Austin. Again.

For years, Welch, executive director of the Texas Pastor Council, has worked to pass a bill that would ban local policies that ensured transgender individuals’ right to use restrooms in public schools and government buildings that match their gender identity. The summer special session, which was quickly coming to a close, had been Welch and other social conservatives’ second chance, an overtime round after the bill — denounced by critics as discriminatory and unnecessary — failed during the regular session that ended in May.  

But with the Texas House unlikely to vote on a bathroom bill, Welch gathered with some of the most conservative Republicans in that chamber to make a final plea. The bill, they argued without any evidence, would prevent men from entering bathrooms to sexually assault or harass women.

“If this does not pass during this special session, we are asking for, urgently on behalf of all these pastors across the state of Texas, that we do hold a second special session until the job is done,” Welch said at the press event, hosted by Texas Values, a socially conservative group.

 Though the group of lawmakers, religious leaders and activists were still coming to terms with their failure to get a bill to Abbott’s desk, for Welch’s Pastor Council, the years-long fight over bathroom restrictions has nonetheless been a galvanizing campaign.

The group, which Welch founded in 2003, has grown from a local organization to a burgeoning statewide apparatus with eyes on someday becoming a nationwide force, one able to mobilize conservative Christians around the country into future political battles. If Abbott doesn’t call lawmakers back for another special session to pass a bathroom bill, the group is likely to shift its attention to the 2018 elections. 

“Our role in this process shouldn’t be restricted just because people attend church,” Welch told The Texas Tribune. “Active voting, informed voting, is a legitimate ministry of the church.”

A pastor for pastors

Welch has made a career out of mixing the religious and the political. Before founding the Pastors Council, he spent time at the Christian Coalition and Vision America, a controversial national evangelical group led by Rick Scarborough, a Texas pastor. And just before he founded the Pastor Council, Welch briefly worked as the executive director of the Republican Party in Harris County, where he would get to know many of the politicians that would animate his later campaigns. Welch said he has known Lt. Gov. Dan Patrick, one of the most outspoken proponents of a bathroom bill in state government, since he was a radio host in Houston.

But it was with the Pastor Council — at first a small group of Houston pastors — that Welch would begin to make his deepest mark in Texas politics.

“We formed the Houston area pastor council in 2003 as a group of 12 pastors, across racial and denominational lines, to engage together on a variety of social moral cultural issues,” he said.

 

That initial group has since expanded into two additional entities, the Texas Pastor Council and the US Pastor Council, though the distinctions between the groups can be murky. Welch — who himself no longer preaches, instead referring to himself as a “pastor for pastors” — leads all three groups, and the main phone number for the US Pastor Council is a direct line to Welch.

The group, according to Welch, has taken on a range of issues, from criminal justice reform to child foster care. But over the course of his career, Welch and the group have had a decided preoccupation with attacking LGBT rights, what Welch describes as “the continued tide of the radical political LGBTQ movement trying to work to undermine traditional marriage and traditional family.” On the US Pastor Council website, the only “current issue” listed is “Woman’s Privacy Protection,” a page that features a number of talking points in favor of a bathroom bill.

“They have made anti-LGBT activism their primary focus,” said Dan Quinn, communications director for Texas Freedom Network, a liberal watchdog group. “They’ve had their most public efforts trying to defeat anything that protects equality for LGBT Texans.”

Over the course of several years as a columnist for World Net Daily, a far-right website known for hosting conspiracy theories, Welch railed against same-sex marriage and legal protections for LGBT individuals. In a 2009 post titled “When the Wicked Rule,” Welch attacked a new federal law that protected LGBT individuals from hate crimes as condoning “every possible form of sexual deviancy.” He denounced the “radical sexual-deviancy jihad” in a post called “My Gay America” in 2010.

Lesbian Mayor Annise Parker has gone above and beyond to now extend protection through executive orders to ‘gender identity’ and ‘gender expression,’” he wrote at the time. “Keep your wives and daughters out of Houston city restrooms.”

That rhetoric against Parker – the first openly gay mayor of a large American city — and legal protections for LGBT individuals in Houston would eventually become talking points against the Houston Equal Rights Ordinance, which would have made it illegal to discriminate against someone based on 15 different “protected characteristics,” including sex, race, religion, sexual orientation and gender identity.

During that fight — which concluded with Houston residents voting overwhelmingly to strike down the nondiscrimination ordinance — Welch played a leading role in both the electoral and legal campaigns against the city. Jared Woodfill, one of the lead organizers against the HERO ordinance in Houston, said that Welch and his organization were “extremely instrumental” in gathering the signatures that would ultimately prompt the lawsuit and referendum overturning the ordinance.

Indeed, organizing and mobilizing voters is a key part of the Pastor Council’s mission. Its website boasts pages titled “Every Christian Votes” and the “AMERICA plan.” Under the “AMERICA plan,” pastors are encouraged to communicate with congregants about political issues, distribute voter guides and register “every eligible adult” to vote.

In other words, Welch had already established an infrastructure for turning out voters before the HERO referendum — a battle that helped elevate his organization and its platform. Randy Wilson, national field director for Church Ministries for the Washington, D.C.-based Family Research Council, which has worked with the Pastor Council, said this is easier said than done.

“Dave has to have an established and billed credibility with the pastors, a very untrusting demographic, really,” he said.

That credibility and visibility would only grow when the city issued subpoenas for sermons and other statements Welch and other members of the Pastors Council had made in support of a 2014 failed petition drive aimed at repealing HERO. That incident drew national attention, energizing conservatives across Texas and the country and landing Welch on national media. (In response to that incident, the Texas Legislature passed a lawearlier this year shielding pastors’ sermons from government subpoena power.)

“It certainly escalated some elements of what we do to a much higher level because of the visibility of that Houston battle,” Welch said. “That achieved national attention.”

With that momentum, Welch, Woodfill and other conservative activists began to look to the the Legislature as the next battleground for the issue. Welch would begin to use tactics that had worked in Houston — hosting workshops to educate pastors, blasting out emails on the issues and hosting rallies — on a statewide level.

“The network of churches that has become involved in this issue has become very, very important,” Woodfill said.“The same model is being used across the state of Texas.”

But that model has had its limits. In the Legislature, efforts to pass a bathroom bill have failed against stiff opposition from the House, in particular that of House Speaker Joe Straus.

Despite those setbacks, the US Pastor Council itself has continued to grow, Welch said. According to tax documents on a database maintained by ProPublica, the US Pastor Council, which is registered as a 501(c)(3) nonprofit charitable organization and does not disclose its donors, saw its revenue more than double from $329,696 to $833,749 between 2014 and 2015, the last year for which data is available and the year of the HERO ordinance vote in Houston.

Welch said the group does not buy large ad campaigns, instead focusing resources on hosting workshops and organizing among pastors.

“There aren’t many religious groups that overtly have this partisan affiliation or policy preference as pronounced as the Pastors Council,” said Brandon Rottinghaus, a political science professor at the University of Houston. “That’s been a major change we’ve seen since 2013 or 2014.”

With primary season approaching, members of the Pastor Council are preparing to take their campaign to the ballot box and unseat Republicans who did not do enough to challenge Straus’ opposition to a “bathroom bill.”Steve Riggle, a pastor to a congregation of more than 20,000 at Grace Community Church in Houston and a member of the Pastor Council, said he and others are talking about “how in the world do we have 90-some Republicans [in the 150-member Texas House] who won’t stand behind what they say they believe.”

“They’re more afraid of Straus than they are of us,” he said. “It’s about time they’re more afraid of us.”

“This is not over”

In early August, in the midst of the special session, Welch and dozens of other pastors descended on Austin. Hundreds of pastors had signed a letter in support of the bathroom legislation, and before heading inside, the group that had made the trip gathered on the Capitol steps for a brief rally.

Throughout his campaign for a bathroom bill, Welch has enjoyed easy access to the state’s elected officials. He hosted a policy briefing in February that featured, among others, Patrick and Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton. The August rally, which the Texas Pastor Council had promoted as a response to “opponents of God’s created order,” was no exception.

State Rep. Ron Simmons, R-Carrollton, and state Sen. Lois Kolkhorst, R-Brenham, the authors of bathroom bills in their chambers, both spoke to the importance of the bill as Welch acted as the effective emcee of the event, leading the crowd in chants of “Let the House vote.”  

“We’re going to take this letter to the House as the voice of the state of Texas and our churches today,” Welch said.

But even as he represents pastors across the state, Welch and his work enjoy far from unanimous support from Christian and other religious leaders. During the regular session, about 50 faith leaders of various denominations lined the stairs outside the Texas House in protest of bills targeting LGBT Texans.

And just days before Welch arrived in Austin for the rally this month, dozens of religious leaders gathered in the very same spot to denounce the bill as discriminatory and hypocritical. In front of a crowd of more than one hundred supporters, an imam from Austin, as well as pastors and rabbis from across the state spoke about how their faith led them to oppose the legislation.

For Steve Wells, a self-described conservative pastor at the South Main Baptist Church in Houston, the campaign for the “bathroom bill” represents “bad theology.” He says he wishes that Welch and other like-minded pastors would focus more on the common dignity granted human beings.

“You will never in your lifetime meet someone who was not created in the image of God,” he said.

And in July, leaders of the national Episcopal Church sent a letter to Strausasking him to remain “steadfast” in his opposition to the legislation, also denouncing it as discriminatory.

Terri Burke, the executive director of the ACLU in Texas, described the “bathroom bill” as the latest frontier for far-right groups opposed to LGBT rights. Now that sexual orientation is largely protected under the law, she said, gender identity has become a target.

“I think those who want to discriminate have figured out LGB are hard to discriminate against, so they’ve pulled the T out,” she said.

To Welch and his fellow members on the Pastor Council, though, the group’s positions are is well in line with the teachings of the Bible. And even if the death of the “bathroom bill” in the special session represents the loss of a single battle, the broader war continues

“This is not over,” Riggle said.

Disclosure: The Texas Freedom Network has been a financial supporter of The Texas Tribune. A complete list of Tribune donors and sponsors is available here.